Monday, 29 August 2011

Single Relationship Status Vs Psychological Disorders

I'd associate being single with psychological disorders.

The definition abnormality of the mind that results in persistent behaviour patterns that can seriously affect your day-to-day function and life. Don't take me wrong, I'm not saying that being single means that you're crazy otherwise I'd be calling myself crazy lol
I just think that being single is a result of a protective mechanism, that those that have had bad past experiences with relationships, which our brain develops to prevent us from being involved with someone and thus getting hurt again.

"There is a reason I said I'd be happy alone. It wasn't because I thought I would be happy alone. 
It was because I thought if I loved someone and then it fell apart, I might not make it. 
It's easier to be alone. Because what if you learn that you need love? And then you don't have it. 
What if you like it? And lean on it? What if you shape your life around it? And then it falls apart? 
Can you even survive that kind of pain? Losing love is like organ damage. It's like dying. 
The only difference is death ends. This, It could go on forever..."

Why do People Lie...?

"It’s a basic truth of the human condition that everybody lies. The only variable is about what.”

Lately I've been constantly asking myself the same question and the number one concern I have about human beings... Why do people lie????

The bible says in John 8:32, "The truth will set you free". I quite frankly totally agree with that and I learnt it the hard way, but I can firmly say that I am glad I eventually learn this concept. I won't be a hypocrite and say that I completely don't do it, because then I'd be lying, but I can honestly say that I try my hardest not to do it. When you try your hardest to achieve something, things always work out. And yes, lies disgust me that much!

See people try to beautify things or make them seem better by using excuses such as: "I lied to protect you" or "You'd be hurt if you knew the truth", and the most infamous one "If he/she doesn't know about it, it isn't a lie", gosh I hate that one because at the end of the day YOU ARE STILL LYING!

 How do you sleep at night when you lie? Don't you worry about the consequences? Don't you worry about the fact the person might find out about and it probably will hurt them even more then? Don't you think that instead of trying "to protect" the person, you probably could be working on making things better at the moment?
How do you think? What do you think? Who do you think you are to lie to that person? 

By postponing the truth or omitting the truth, what makes you think that you're making things any better Instead you're just digging a deeper hole for yourself in the situation and spiritually too, because i guarantee you that you do not go to bed at night with a clean conscious! And if you say you do, you're either LYING or you're just pure EVIL!

If you think, about it while you're busy thinking that you're caring for the person involved in this lie, you're actually not. You're just being plain selfish because YOU are trying to get away with whatever connivery you're involved in and at the end of the day you're the one that will be better off if you get away with the lie you told. You try to make yourself feel better by saying that you're doing it to protect someone, or not to hurt them bla bla, meanwhile at the end of the day it's all about you!
And this just brings me to my all time conclusion to all human behavior, which is that HUMANS ARE SELFISH! Therefore humans lie because they are SELFISH.

There's that concept that if you want to be happy you have to be selfish. I agree with it too, but I just think that human beings just take it to a whole new level. Being selfish doesn't mean stepping on other people's feelings and letting them be worse off than u. Being selfish means that you never put anyone (other than God) before yourself and that you don't do things to please anyone else but yourself. But if you think you're pleasing yourself by lying to people, then am sorry to burst your bubble but that happiness you're feeling is also nothing but a lie.

Miguel - Sure Thing

Are these three things too much to ask for... "Love you like a brother. Treat you like a friend. Respect you like a lover"... <3

My Favourite Bible Verse

"Love is patient, love is kind.
 It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 
 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 
 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
 - 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

Gabriel Shayanne, My Sunshine*

The day he was born :')

Gabriel is my nephew, but I love him as if he were my son :) The day he was born  it seemed like a new beginning for me. That's why I call him my Sunshine, because he brought LIGHT into my life.

Always with this BLISSFUL smile

From that day onward, everything just seemed to have changed and the world suddenly became a better place.

Everytime I think of him I smile. There hasn't been one single moment he has ever made me cry (except for the day he was born).
He was sick this day and I was nursing him :/

He fell asleep on top of my head! :O

Whenever I'm feeling down, all I have to think about is his smile. And then suddenly the world smiles and everything just feels like it will be alright :) 
Meu pequenino! :)


             He's the reason for my happiness!
              He's a blessing to my family.

I pray that he grows up to be a WONDERFUL man, just like his father and that he keeps this positive aura that he has till the end of times.

I love you my little one :) <3

Why is it that, the reverse action of things is so difficult to achieve...? 

If u get addicted to drugs, it's difficult to stop this addiction...
If u start smoking, it's difficult to stop smoking...
If u gain weight, it's difficult to lose it...
If u start loving someone, it's difficult to stop loving that someone...

Resuming: why is it that the way out, is not always as easy as the way in...?

(Andréa André - 14 August 2008)

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I have never really done this lol well I have done it before, but through my diary and tried it through Facebook, but argh it’s considered lame when you open up via Facebook so i’m going to just give this a try. ..

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